Kippers Birth Story

You may have noticed I have been absent for the last couple of weeks! I suspect the last post gave it away but I have been busy having a baby and adjusting to having two special little people in our family. However the time has come when Hubby’s back at work, Monkey is at nursery and Kipper ( I think this nickname is going to stay now) is sleeping peacefully so it only seems right I share how our second made it into this world.

Kipper'sBirthStory

I really wanted a natural birth and to avoid induction. However the fact that I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes at 37 weeks and Kipper was projected to be big baby, an added concern after a previous shoulder dystocia, I gave up and agreed. My induction process started the day after Kipper’s due date and it was a long process… I had two 24 hour pessaries although the first was not administered until late in the afternoon of the first day and we had to wait a few hours in between the two.  I went in at 7.30am on the Tuesday and Kipper was born at 5.43am on the Friday. So much for it being quicker second time round!

Due to my ‘high risk’ I was not allowed to go home with the pessaries. However we were allowed to leave the hospital and since it coincided with a week of fabulous weather we spent the time walking up and down Worthing seafront and eating lunch in a local cafe. Anything to try and get him moving. Monkey had gone to visit his grandparents so it was nice to have some couple time before life got turned upside down again.

Tiny Hands

I found the induction ward frustrating as many other mums to be came in, had the pessary and were in labour a few hours later. While I got a little bit of back ache the odd contraction nothing really happened. Kipper would engage while we were walking and then as soon as I laid down on the bed he would pop back up again. Lesson learnt here ladies, Pilates is definitely the way to go in-between children! Hubby stayed the first night as we thought something was happening and ended up sleeping in a chair. Second night I sent him home confident it wasn’t working. My consultant was bemused by the whole process, since I had all the signs previously of being very close to going into labour, yet the induction process wasn’t working? We started discussing the options post the second pessary, it was looking like I could have another go with a 6 hour version. The thought of spending longer on the ward (it was Thursday afternoon at this point) was depressing so when they examined and said ..actually we can break your waters it seemed like the best option.

It moved pretty quick after we had made the decision, although initially I wasn’t due to go down to a delivery suite until around 10pm then moved us early and my waters were broken just after shift change around 8.30pm. We ended up in the same delivery suite that we had Monkey in. It hit us straight away and then we couldn’t work out if this was a good thing or s bad thing based on the trauma of Monkeys birth!

The process of breaking my waters was not painful, a little uncomfortable but nothing compared to the 3 in 10 I got 10 minutes later. I had no idea what breaking the waters would do to the intensity of the contractions. There was no gentle run in, no rise and fall as I was expecting, within an hour of my waters going they were on top of each other coming every minute. Great I was thinking quick labour… got to be nearly 10cm. Only no, I was only 4cm at 3 hours in. So I did what I wasn’t going to do, I took the pain relief. Turned out for the best, since it took another 5 and a bit hours to get to 10cm.

IMG_1039 (1)There was notable differences this time with the epidural as I could actually feel my toes and wiggle them around, in fact most of my lower legs were easy to move and I could lift my lower back as well. Two hours after delivery I was up and walking around and in the shower. A completely different situation to the previous one I had, had with Monkey.  I also felt the delivery. I wasn’t left looking at machine like last time, instead the midwife was helping me pinpoint when to push and it was working fine until Kipper decided to turn! He had been in the perfect position for weeks and right at the end he decided to move. Queue senior midwife and consultant.

What I didn’t find out until after the delivery was that I was on their radar the whole time… they were expecting another shoulder dystocia. Apparently everything you read about the chances of getting a second one is poppy cock and its very likely especially when you throw diabetes into the mix. The consultant managed to turn him back thankfully but in so doing so it highlighted the fact that once again baby was rocking in my pelvis and not making it into the birth canal. This time they were not messing around – forceps or c-section. It was our choice. To have been in hospital for four days and to end up with a c-section didn’t seem fair. So against all my previous beliefs I agreed to forceps. Although I begged with him to be gentle and no cutting! At this point he explained that we needed additional people in the room because of the shoulder threat, so he ran through who everyone was and what their jobs were. Something which didn’t happen last time as we just went into crash – Monkey’s Birth Story it helped to know they were prepared for the worse and it also meant Hubby knew what was going on instead of seeing chaos unfold around him. Worrying that he may loose me, the baby or both…Thankfully thus time they weren’t needed and disappeared as quickly as they had arrived.

True to his word all the consultant did was pull Kipper down an inch or so before removing the forceps one at a time and that then allowed me to deliver naturally. Without going into too many gory details I got away with it just a graze, recovery has been a breeze (see the massage does work!) Thanks to the skill of the consultant who listened to what we wanted and did his best to get us that.

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The forceps left one tiny red mark on Kipper which disappeared almost straight away. Because it was effectively a natural delivery Hubby got to cut the cord once it stopped pulsating and Kipper was left on me for two hours – skin to skin, just as my birth plan had requested. I breast fed as the placenta was delivered and we got to enjoy the time together without interruption. I genuinely believe this has helped me bond with Kipper much quicker. And the bonus no more nights in hospital we were allowed home that evening – although we ended up back in Neo Natal the following day but thats another story…

I just want to say a big Thank You to all the midwives we came into contact with at Worthing Hospital during our stay. Everyone was understanding, helpful and genuinely cared about us and Kipper’s safe arrival. As for the consultant we probably owe him several glasses of his favourite tipple.

Linking up with MarvellousMondays, Big Pink Link, Anything Goes, Twinkly Tuesday, Pick n Mix, Just Another Linky.

55 Comments

  1. Something Crunchy Mummy

    So glad you got some of the birth you wanted and also that you felt more at ease knowing what was going on this time. #marvmondays xx

  2. Becky, Cuddle Fairy

    I’m so glad Kipper’s birth went so well for him & for you too! I know how worrying it was for you the few weeks beforehand. It’s great to hear that they listened to what you wanted. Kipper is a gorgeous little boy – I love the photo with his hat on!! x

  3. Dr Mummykins

    Oh this brought a tear to my eye. Wonderful pics, gorgeous little (big!) Kipper, lovely to hear your birth story. (Our consultant got a huuuuuuuge bottle of tipple…!) x #marvmondays

  4. Coombe Mill

    Huge congratulations and it sounds a much better experience thanks to a great team in the hospital. Enjoy these early weeks together. #marvmondays

  5. Sarah Howe

    Love these stories! Sounded like a bit of a painful start with a bit of a wait but all turned out ok in the end. Glad the forceps didn’t cause too much damage. Kipper is so gorgeous xx #marvmondays

  6. MummyTravels

    Congratulations! What gorgeous photos. And I’m really glad they did make the effort to stick with your wishes and explain everything that was going on – it’s a shame that isn’t always the case but great that it made a long labour easier.

  7. Kaye

    Congratulations, what an absolute babe! I absolutely love reading birth stories and it gives me hope that I may possibly be able to have a good birth too next time. Thanks for linking to #MarvMondays, Kaye xo

  8. Mummy Muckups (Anna)

    Yay you!! Kipper looks absolutely gorgeous. It is SOOOO important to share the birth story; debriefing is essential and other mums can relate to some aspect. Tough that you were in so long, but when he made the appearance, it seems all was smooth sailing…except for the part 2 of neo-natal??? #twinklytuesday

  9. Angela Milnes

    What an interesting story. I had inducement and waters broken. Your story reminded me of mine. Thanks for sharing. Kipper is Gorgeous.

  10. wendy

    Congratulations!!Kipper is just gorgeous. I’m so glad the consultants listened to you and the delivery wasn’t quite as chaotic as last time!Hope you’re recovering well and Monkey is enjoying getting to know his little brother xx #TwinklyTuesday

  11. Sarah @ Mum & Mor

    Congratulations on your new arrival! Kipper is such a cutie. I had gestational diabetes but I was diagnosed much earlier at 16 weeks. I ended up induced at 38 weeks and gave birth to my daughter smoothly, who came out at just 6lbs 8oz. Sadly the epidural didn’t work at all. I wish you and yours the best. Enjoy your little one! #BloggerClubUK

  12. An imperfect Mum (@animperfectmum)

    Your story made me cry as elements of it are so similar to my own. I am so happy for you and little Kipper is absolutely gorgeous. Massive congratulations!

  13. The Pramshed

    Congrats Clare on the birth of Kipper! So glad that the consultant and medical staff listened to you. Hope you’re enjoying being a family of four 🙂 x #BloggerClubUK

  14. mummascribbles

    Huge congratulations- kipper is just gorgeous. Glad you got the natural birth you wanted even if you needed a tiny bit of assistance. Anything is better than a csection which I am really hoping to avoid this time round! #BloggerClubUK

  15. ljdove23

    Congratulations!! He is absolutely beautiful and I’m so glad that your birth was more straight forward this time. Enjoy that beautiful little boy, he has made me super broody! #BloggerClubUK

  16. babiesbiscuitsandbooze

    Oh I am so broody haha! Kipper is beautiful, congratulations to you all. I am so glad you are both well, I know you didn’t want the assistance but it sounds like it was still the aftercare you wanted so you could have that special time together. My sisters and I have all had forceps with our births. TM also turned at the last minutes so he was back to back the little monkey!! How lovely that you got to go home so quickly. Sending you all lots of lovely thoughts and hope you are surviving the newborn (lack of) sleep. #BloggerClubUK

  17. Rambles, Rants, Writings

    Wow, births can be difficult but you dealt with it so well! What a beautiful little baby you have and I’m pleased everything worked out in the end. I’ve had 2x back to back babies which cause lengthy labours, and one in which was early and I had less than an hours labour in between those two. I never get established labour either, my contractions become erratic and my second baby had his head out, but it took around 10 minutes for the next contraction – I could feel him moving and it wasn’t pleasant! All of them healthy which is the main thing. A huge congratulations and it’s great to have you back!

    Janet from RRW
    #BloggerClubUK

  18. My Petit Canard

    What a wonderful hospital birthing team! Even though it was a little more complext from the outset, it sounds like the consultant and the team really worked with you guys to give you a positive birth that you could be happy with. Such a lovely ending 🙂 Emily #BloggerClubUK

  19. Unhinged Mummy (aka Janine Woods)

    Awww congratulations. What a beautiful little bubba. It really doesn’t seem that long ago though since I read your pregnancy announcement. Time flies, although I’m sure for you it didn’t feel that quick, especially at the end. Mind you all my babies were late and the last two weeks are definitely the worst. Congratulations again 🙂

    #bloggerclubuk

  20. Lizzie

    Congratulations! I can’t believe it took so long, well done for coping with it and sticking to what you had wanted all along, as closely as you could. Forceps make my toes curl so I don’t blame you for asking them to be gentle. I’m so pleased the birth itself went smoothly, eventhough the wait was more than a little uncomfortable x #bloggerclubuk

  21. dearmummyblog

    Congratulations on Kippers safe arrival! That induction process sounded a hard slog….bet your glad it’s over X great to have you back X #BigPinkLink #BloggerClubUK #TwinklyTuesday

  22. tammymum

    Yay you’re back, what a beautiful little baba!p, congratulations lovey. What a long process that was for you all but it’s good to hear it ended so well and that the lovely consultant listening and indeed followed your wishes, what a relief that must have been. I hope your are settling in to the new family dynamic well and the little ones are doing well! Congratulations again lovey xx #bloggerclubuk

  23. Picking Up Toys

    Aww congratulations!I love reading birth stories!None of mine went to plan.You must have been exhausted but delighted by the end.I remember seeing the forceps and wanting to run 😀 x #picknmix

  24. acornishmum

    Aw congratulations lovely!! He’s gorgeous, we’ve been away all week and I was manic last week so kissed your news, so pleased it went kind if to plan.
    Enjoy those newborn snuggles 🙂 Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix

    Stevie xx

  25. mummydaddymia

    Congratulations! A beautiful baby! Sounds like you had a tough time but its worth it in the end isn’t it?! I had a relatively good birth but a bad time after she was born so I’m worried about us having another one. Its such a short period of time so I’m hoping we will have another 🙂

    #BloggerClubUK

  26. randommusings29

    Even though it didn’t all go exactly to plan, this was a beautiful story with a very happy ending. I love that you did the skin to skin contact thing, what a lovely bonding experience
    Debbie

  27. Virtually All Sorts (@AllSortsHere)

    I have to admit to being a bit dubious about reading this, having had a complicated pregnancy and then acute pre-e and HELLP syndrome, resulting in emergency section at 37+1. BUT it was interesting to go through the process with you, having never seen that side of birth before. Congratulations by the way! #justanotherlinky

  28. Rachel Barreto

    As I’m just finding this much later I know I might not get a response but let’s try anyways. I’m 19 weeks pregnant today with APS. We found out about the APS after we had conceived this baby, after losing 3 very early on. As this is all new, and kind of scary, to me, I of course have been trying to find resources about all of this and have come up pretty empty handed until finding your blog! I was sort of surprised reading your pregnancy posts and especially the birth story here by the seemingly lacking amount of impact that the APS had on your pregnancy and delivery. Did it really not complicate things very much?

    1. Mudpie Fridays

      Hi Rachel, first of all please try not to worry too much ( I know that is soooooo much easier to say than do!). I was pretty emotional all the way through. But ultimately no it didn’t, I had to have the blood thinners each day, see the consultant more and ultimately be managed more during the delivery process but still gave birth to a healthy little boy. And now gratefully have a stroppy toddler to contend with daily. If I am honest I don’t think they really know much about it. I found some more info under Hughes Syndrome which I think maybe similar. I tried to write a post each week so you may glean more info in some of them. But feel free to message me xx

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