Why I am Ageing Gracefully

Over the Christmas period it occurred to me that I am actually only eighteen months away from turning forty. This could have been because of  a rather late night alcohol fuelled conversation with a good friend who I use to go to school with. In said conversation we decided to go away on a girlie weekend to celebrate our fortieth together. It also spurred me on to write my own 40 before 40 bucket list. To me forty is old, I know I won’t feel like that when it actually happens. I will convince myself that forty is in fact the new thirty. But today as I write this I still fell like I am twenty one, albeit a little wiser! Forty is my head is all about being grown up and responsible. I remember my dads fortieth Birthday party in my school hall. I remember the rainbow banner I made his which took forever to colour in and how there was more felt tip on my hands than on the paper. I remember thinking dads old….. and now its my turn!

As much as part of me feels the need to grow old disgracefully…. going out until the early hours of the morning, getting dressed without looking in the mirror and basically pretending to be at uni again. The mother in me knows that I need to look after myself and grow old gracefully. But that doesn’t mean that it can not be fun!

“You don’t stop laughing when you grow old, you grow old when you stop laughing.” George Bernard Shaw

Some of the things I am starting to think about more as I enter my fortieth year are pretty much common sense. But it is time that I stoped and paid a little bit more attention to:

  • Diet – I am an adult I know whats good for me in the food department and whats not. As well as eating a balanced diet I am reducing my sugar intake. I had gestational diabetes with Kipper so I need to start watching what I am eating more since I am more likely to suffer now as I get older.
  • Supplements – I know some people agree and some don’t but I am starting to take a probiotic to help my gut and my skin. I am also going to consider a calcium supplement and vitamin D
  • Have an MOT – as I enter into my fortieth year I am going to have a annual MOT health check through work. Just to make sure I am as physically fit as I can be and get annual advice on things which if I implement now may help me in the years ahead.
  • Go back to the Chiropractor – When I was pregnant I use to visit regularly. I think its time to put a six monthly check up back in my calendar. Hopefully this will stop any problems before they begin.
  • Exercise More – although we are out pretty much every weekend with the boys running around in the fresh air, I want to start some sort of daily exercise routine. Nothing overly time consuming but we are hoping to move and with a little more room I maybe able to squeeze in a cross trainer.
  • Yoga – I love! But I very rarely get a chance to go. There is a local class to me which is a drop in so I am going to try and go once a month. The way I figure is that going a little is better than not going at all!
  • Sleep More – Spend more time relaxing and making sure I get my quota of sleep – one can dream right?
  • Look After My Skin – Make sure I spend the time morning and evening on my skincare routine (which is literally just five minutes)
  • Look after My Teeth – They are starting to move around and I even have a wisdom tooth appearing. Maybe you really do get wiser in your old age? I intend on getting my teeth set and whitened since apparently your teeth can make you look older than you are.
  • Be Aware of the Menopause – although I may have a few of years until symptoms start to present themselves. Its important to understand what that may look like. If I am honest its a bit of a taboo subject – feminine intimate health. We are not very good at talking about it, which I find semi hilarious since when we have children all manner of doctors, midwives and consultants know about our intimate health in more ways than one. One of the symptoms is Vaginal Dryness by raising awareness and discussing these symptoms it will help us all make the right decisions for our bodies. Including using a simple treatment such as a water-based intimate moisturiser such as Canesintima®.

“The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole,but true beauty in a Woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she knows.”

“And the beauty of a woman, with passing years only grows!” Audrey Hepburn

There are so many positives about getting older – I feel more secure in myself, happy in my life choices, financially stable (although I am still longing for that financial freedom goal), I know who I am, what I am, what suits me and what doesn’t. What makes me happy. I am strong enough to walk away from things and people that challenge that happiness. I know where I want to spend my time and don’t waste it. Mentally I may feel twenty one for the next thirty years but its time to make sure I spend a little time and effort looking after me. So that when those two horrors of ours have their own families I can still run around after our grandchildren and help our boys with the burden of parenthood.

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  1. January 11, 2018 / 1:08 pm

    I turned 40 at the end of last year and struggled with it. I couldn’t write any of those 40 before 40 posts as I didn’t want to admit it. I was fine once it happened though xx

  2. anthony harrington
    January 13, 2018 / 7:04 am

    I keep telling myself that age is just a number, I still feel young at heart but old in the rest of my body!

  3. C Parkin
    January 13, 2018 / 10:42 am

    I turned 40 last year and it didn’t have as profound an effect on me as I previously thought it would. The things you list are similar to what I find I am
    thinking about more-things like looking after myself more and realising I can no longer eat what I want without putting on weight.

  4. sharon stanley
    January 13, 2018 / 11:29 am

    I definitely think your as old as you feel. I have just turned 36 so only a few years off 40 but the fact my kids keep asking questions like did you have tv when you were younger? and can you help me with my history project as you must remember those days (my 9 year old is currently studying the victorian era) doesn’t make you feel any better about it. Looking back to when I was a kid 25 was old. I don’t think I look my age but I have always tried to take care of my skin. The grey hairs I can’t stop coming through but I do dye them I’m afraid because they grow in a stripe making me look like a brown cruella devil. I agree with you that you have to take care of yourself where possible and it can be making simple changes like the 2 I have made for new year which are to stop smoking which I am doing well at and have remained smoke free and getting some of my extra weight off and trying to help alleviate the arthritis in my knees and hips that I have recently been diagnosed with. I even stuck to my food free 3 shake a day keto diet on my birthday last Sunday so feeling very proud and I lost a stone in the first week (ok most will be water weight but it looks good in the nurses office pre lecture about my weight lol).

  5. Ashleigh Allan
    January 13, 2018 / 12:48 pm

    Age is just a number. Definately think what you eat is important tho

  6. A.E. ADKINS
    January 14, 2018 / 9:55 am

    Why does your body wear out quicker than the age that your brain tells you that you are?

  7. Hannah Wallington
    January 14, 2018 / 10:26 am

    Great post- I hope I can get be to comfortable enough to allow myself to accept aging. I’m 24 but I feel like 2 kids have taken their toll on my body already!

  8. Iris Tilley
    January 14, 2018 / 10:35 am

    Stick to who you are stay true to yourself keep having fun and make sure the only change is that your just getting wiser

  9. Kev Cannon
    January 14, 2018 / 11:16 am

    My wife is a couple of years shy of 50 so I’ve sent her this article to have a read through – hopefully she’ll take it in the spirit it was intended rather than a ‘you’re getting past it’ observation 🙂

  10. January 14, 2018 / 3:35 pm

    I’m 38 in a week’s time and I’m dreading it a little as 40 approaches. I really need to start taking care of myself too! I’m planning on joining the gym, although I’ve been saying that since Christmas, and getting back into my swimming!

  11. Rachel Atkinson
    January 15, 2018 / 2:15 pm

    Age should never limit us 🙂

  12. Susan B
    January 16, 2018 / 4:32 pm

    A really good list. It all sounds very wise. It’s good that you enjoy yoga as it is such a complete form of mind and body enrichment. I have tried it several times but just cannot get into it. I ended up doing a bit of swimming and power walking, instead. I also take pre and probiotics and I am a fan of spirulena tablets by Lifestream as a useful supplement.

  13. Tracy Nixon
    January 17, 2018 / 7:19 am

    I don’t get hung up over my age – we all age so we should all embrace it rather than hide from it – afterall we cannot stop it!

  14. January 17, 2018 / 7:28 am

    Hi, it is jsut a number and you are as old as you feel. I think it is good to celebrate the big day and embrace and enjoy it as much as possible and then think of the sensible things like a health MOT, being fit, taking supplements , skin regimen the list goes on…. #BloggerClubUK

  15. January 17, 2018 / 10:41 am

    I love how absolutely positive you are about getting older though I can say you definitely do NOT look near 40 😀
    I am 33 and going through surgical menopause – The way I see it, thankfully I won’t have to worry about that when I am older!


  16. Margaret Gallagher
    January 17, 2018 / 11:19 am

    Love LAUGH live
    Its true you are only as old as you feel
    Have fun

  17. January 17, 2018 / 12:00 pm

    I’m a few years off 40 but already starting to focus on looking after myself better. I definitely feel on the edge of being properly middle aged at the moment!! #BloggerClubUK

  18. January 17, 2018 / 12:19 pm

    40 next year. I saw a fab facebook post by someone turning 50 and embracing it to, doing something to celebrate basically every week! #bloggerclubuk

  19. Sarah - Mud, Cakes and Winw
    January 17, 2018 / 1:22 pm

    I am 41 and found 40 a real eye opener. Love your ideas and I promise it is ok x #bloggerclubuk

  20. January 17, 2018 / 5:24 pm

    Well I am positively ancient then at 46! I felt just like you when I was about to turn 40. I got fit (good old Tracey Anderson DVD), made a real effort with face cream and thought about giving up alcolhol ? but then I enjoyed my actual birthday and well…I didn’t feel any different. I mean, I didn’t become old! ? so now at 46, I’m calmer, more focussed on what makes me happy and less stress about getting work done. It’s like a light switch turned in my head (or maybe it’s the declining hormones….). Enjoy these next 18 months but also the 18 months after that because you are still you even though you may be old! #bloggerclubuk

  21. January 19, 2018 / 12:49 am

    These are great ways to care for yourself and feel your best. Happy 40th! #AnythingGoes

  22. January 19, 2018 / 1:46 am

    Age is definitely just a number! You look absolutely fabulous. #BloggerClubUK

  23. January 19, 2018 / 9:26 am

    I turned 40 last year – yes I agree age is just a number. I love teaching yoga to kids I’m sure that keeps me feeling young.

  24. January 19, 2018 / 2:09 pm

    I’m a similar age to you … apart from my back which feels like it’s pushing 80! I’ve had to accept if I am very physical one day I need to take it easy the next. #bloggerclubuk

  25. January 19, 2018 / 7:57 pm

    Age is just a number. People often think I’m a lot older than I am haha. Which I won’t be thankful for when I am a lot older.


  26. paula cheadle
    January 20, 2018 / 11:47 am

    I don’t believe in age really, you are only as old as you feel in that given moment

  27. Lorna Ledger
    January 20, 2018 / 4:23 pm

    I’m 40 tomorrow! Eeekkk! over the last 2 years I have grown all my hair colour out, and I now embrace a ‘from within’ approach! I can’t wait for tomorrow to be over, then I can get on!

  28. Kerry H
    January 20, 2018 / 7:12 pm

    I think having a baby aged me quickly but not that I look older, just how others see me (responsible and mature). I acruelly think it’s my attitude that’s changed the most.

  29. sarah pearce
    January 20, 2018 / 8:18 pm

    You’re only as old as you let your body and brain feel!!! I still feel like a teenager,though when I try to play with the kids have to admit my health isn’t as great as I want it to be x

  30. katie w
    January 20, 2018 / 10:36 pm

    40 is not old, i keep thinking I still have 35 years of work left before I retire, so much I can do in that time. 40 is the new 20 dont forget

  31. Leila Benhamida
    January 21, 2018 / 11:43 am

    Age is just a number. For me as long as your are healthy mentally and physically is wonderful.

  32. sheri Darby
    January 22, 2018 / 7:23 pm

    I can’t believe just how old I am, but it is just a number. Enjoy life, we’re all still children really

  33. Sarah Austin
    January 22, 2018 / 9:34 pm

    Age is a thing of the past, everyone is living so much longer there are lots of different stages to life now!

  34. Karen Usher
    January 22, 2018 / 9:43 pm

    I have to remember as I flick through magazines, that we cant all look like celebrities, as much as we would all love to look glamourous and have no wrinkles, its just not realistic for the majority of us. I think our wrinkles add character to who we are and what we have been through in life. Heres to aging gracefully and trying hard to look after ourselves, isn’t as always easy as we think it is!

  35. Stevie
    January 23, 2018 / 10:02 am

    I think I’m getting my wisdom teeth and I’m 44 in a few weeks or so. I hear gargling with coconut milk or oil can help whiten your teeth.

  36. Elli
    January 23, 2018 / 1:34 pm

    I’m all for aging disgracefully 😉

  37. Kate Davies
    January 23, 2018 / 1:56 pm

    Some great ideas for looking after ourselves, I am 29 this year but feel much older because I have a back injury and click and pop when I get up.

  38. January 23, 2018 / 2:18 pm

    I have never dyed my hair but I do pluck out the grey ones when I find them. I am taking care of myself a bit more now as I approach 40 too. #bloggerclubuk

  39. January 25, 2018 / 12:41 am

    I keep forgetting how old I am (37 this year!) but as I took up roller derby last year and got my septum pierced for my last birthday I can honestly say I am not growing up lol

  40. lucie fish
    January 25, 2018 / 12:18 pm

    im closer to 40 than i would like, BUT im happy and healthy so its better to grow old than the alternative, its a priviledge denied to many. i have 4 kids so they keep me active, ive also lost 2 and a half stones with slimming world recently, the only thing that should bother me but isnt suprisingly is the few grey hairs that have appeared lol!

  41. sandy ralph
    January 25, 2018 / 12:31 pm

    age is just a number im 51 now but i still feel like and act like im in my 30s

  42. Kayleigh Watkins
    January 25, 2018 / 7:02 pm

    I will be 30 in 2019 and still feel 18 in many ways, this is a great way of looking at turning 40, my partner turned 40 two years ago and literally had a mid life crisis, he was depressed for weeks, it hit him hard for some reason xxx

  43. Natalie Crossan
    January 25, 2018 / 10:12 pm

    Cheers to you – you look amazing and it’s obviously working for you 🙂

  44. Tee Simpson
    January 25, 2018 / 10:50 pm

    They say your as old as you feel dont they. Suppose age is just a number and as long as yiu feel young at heart thats all that matters

    January 26, 2018 / 11:30 am

    Sorry but i am 53 and i wonder where the years have went

  46. Jeanette Leighton
    January 26, 2018 / 3:13 pm

    I’m 39 in march for about a year now my age has suddenly hit me I’ve started thinking about life in general

  47. Anthea Holloway
    January 26, 2018 / 4:33 pm

    I am getting old but never let it stop me doing what I want to do.

  48. Karen Coombes
    February 1, 2018 / 1:10 pm

    I panicked when I turned 30, but 40 was more a “bring it on” moment for me.
    I feel a lot more comfortable with who I am and what I want. Although I do have a list of things I need to get into such as an exercise routine, I’m on my way to fulfill my dreams!

  49. Bev
    February 4, 2018 / 10:04 am

    Not something I’ve thought about. To add a different perspective, if you’ve had a life-threatening illness, you just think about aging, graceful or not!

  50. ZARA
    February 5, 2018 / 6:45 pm

    You honestly look so young and you are an incredible mum and will be an amazing role model for many little ones! Thanks for your tips and tricks- great post! 🙂

  51. February 10, 2018 / 3:05 pm

    I turned 40 this time last year and I’m sure I had a list similar to yours. Have I done any of it? Not really! So, good luck with yours, I’m sure you’re more motivated than me! #bloggercluUK

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