Potty Training Boys – I was talking to some friends over messenger today about potty training and it suddenly occurred to me how easy we had it with Monkey. So I thought I would share how we went about potty training. But before I do this is just our experience I am no where near an expert in these matters and every child will do it their way in their own time. I think we probably just got very, very lucky.
I decided pretty early on that we would take it very slow and let Monkey tell us when he was ready. Having watched another mum I know try to train her daughter so she could be the ‘first’ to have a child out of nappies. It was hell. Mum was stressed, daughter was stressed and it took a long time, almost three months. I didn’t know how I was going to do it, but I knew I wasn’t doing to that way.
In fact I was planning on waiting until his third birthday having been told that boys tend to go later. Plus as Monkey has a June Birthday, Summer months were much more appealing – running around the garden any accidents would be a lot easier to clear up. Monkey had other ideas and we ended up going dry in March, he turned three the following June.
Getting ready to Potty Training Boys
So heres what we did – Preparation – we put a lot of work in before hand:
- Work with the nursery – he was in childcare three days a week so it was important they were on board and understood what we were trying to do and how we were doing it. Our nursery was really good and were lead by us and Monkey, neither forcing the issue or holding him back
- Go into pull ups early – we actually started using pull ups a couple of months or so before. I had intended on using them up to the Summer. We had brought the ones with a well know cartoon character on them. Obviously they are a lot more attractive to a little boy and he loved them straight off. Initially I used them like nappies (I know expensive) but in my head I was trying not to introduce too many changes at once. Over a period of time I would give him the option to sit on the potty or big toilet. I made no fuss over a dirty pull up and just let him decide what he wanted to do.
- Choose a potty – we went shopping together to buy one, he chose it. It was blue (his favourite colour), it sat in the downstairs loo, in the kitchen, in the lounge, upstairs. Basically all around the house. I didn’t want him to be scared of it. It was his, he owned it and could do what he wanted with it. Again I did this three months before we actually started training. Sometimes he would sit on it before getting in the bath, sometimes he didn’t want to. If he didn’t want to that was fine, I would just say maybe another time. I wanted him to feel as though he is in control. Having read somewhere they will do it when they wanted to. I needed him to want to do it. If by some fluke he peed in it when he sat on it we made a huge fuss. I mean a huge fuss Daddy even had a wee dance! We had intended to decorate it with stickers but in the end he chose not to, but it might be something you want to consider.
- Buy big boy pants – again we went shopping and I allowed him to choose his own. He loved Thomas the Tank at the time so thats what we ended up with. I made it a big deal and we talked about them loads with friends and family.
- Talk & read about it – I brought a book called Pete’s Potty and we read it every night before bed, it became one of his favourites. We also talked about using the potty and the toilet. About flushing and where the water goes and washing hands. We talked about it a lot! He’s a boy! They like talking about poo.
- Take him to the loo when out – because he was in pull ups it was easy to sit him on the toilet when either I or Hubby went. It soon became fun with Monkey requesting that his grandparents take him if they happened to be with us. I am sure this helped as when we did it for real he was already use to going into public toilets, was use to them and saw it as a bit of a game.
Doing it – Eek I was scared – Potty Training Boys
- Monkey lead the way – we continued with the talk, pull ups and sitting on the potty and toilet. We weren’t training or calling it potty training in anyway. Until one day he wanted to wear his pants. So we let him and decided to stay house bound that day. But did everything else we would do normally, I had to stop myself asking every five minutes if he needed a wee. Instead I probably asked every hour! We had one accident that first day – he got too caught up playing. Encouraged we went out and about the following day.
- Travel Potty – I had brought a travel potty, more for my piece of mind than his. It also doubled as a toilet seat. It helped me when we were out an about as I knew I had an option when there was no toilet to be found. In those first days we used it a lot.
- Chocolate buttons – every time he had a wee on the toilet he got a giant chocolate button. This motivation worked well. However I felt as though poos needed to be awarded further as I was paranoid he would save them up and get ill because he didn’t want to go. So we brought little models of the Disney planes. Every time he had a poo on the loo he would get one. Once you have done something seven times it becomes a habit. When we ran out of planes we just carried on.. I think he probably only ever had one or two poos on the potty we moved to the loo pretty quickly with number 2s!
- Night-time -I didn’t know you weren’t meant to do day and night time at the same time. But we did and it worked fine. We would make sure he went to the toilet before going to bed. We kept night time pull ups on for two weeks or so after starting potty training during the day. But he soon wanted to wear his pants to bed so we thought what the heck and let him (he was dry during the day at this time). He had a couple of accidents that first week but after that nothing.
Now he did have accidents don’t get me wrong but we have never had a poo one at home. I think the whole potty training process probably was just less than two weeks. I classed success as three days on the trott without an accident and he did it. More importantly he did it when he was ready, we had put a lot of prep in to get him mentally there but really he did the whole thing himself. Not bad for a boy!
Have you got any tips? I would love to hear about them in the comments below as I’m sure Kipper will be a whole different story!
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Potty Training Boys